One thing I love to do while watching movies is
to catch messages, especially those I do not agree with or ones that society no
longer finds acceptable (or thinks they no longer do). To the trained
eye, a singular scene or line of dialogue reveals the social mores of
the film's time period. Tucked neatly into the plot, the viewpoints are simply
matter of fact, i.e. "this is the way it is," and it's a problem if
the character does not conform. Since the viewer identifies with the character,
the scene or dialogue sends the message that there is also something wrong with
the viewer if he or she does not behave in the expected,
"appropriate" way.
Jealousy is generally accepted and in men often
encouraged.
Take Send Me No Flowers (1964). Doris Day's character
can't understand and is even suspicious when her husband is not jealous of her
college sweetheart. This plot point is resolved when she assumes he is having
an affair. You can almost see the thought form across Doris Day's face, No
wonder he isn't jealous, he doesn't love me! In The Feminine
Touch (1941), Rosalind Russell's character goes to great lengths to
induce her husband's jealousy, which she equates with love, and is exasperated
when he does not behave as expected. By the end of movie, the lesson is learned as
he fights off two potential suitors and she beams triumphantly.
While men are encouraged to be jealous and women are allowed to be--especially when it results in a comedic escapade (such as The Awful Truth)--several movies incite women to forgive their men's "indiscretions."
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| Tracy and her father discuss his affair. |
In Philadelphia Story (1940), the father explains to his daughter (Katharine Hepburn), "What most wives fail to realize is that their husband's philandering has nothing whatever to do with them." He then blames his philandering on a reluctance to grow old as well as his daughter's lack of idolization of him. Love the movie (put it on to verify the quote and watched the whole thing), but the line kills me every time.
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Mary gets some motherly advice
on philandering husbands. |
In The Women (1939), the mother of the main character (Norma Shearer) advises her daughter to ignore her husband's affair. She further rationalizes her son-in-law's actions by explaining that she has also experienced a philandering husband. In other words, a cheating husband is a natural part of marriage. When Norma Shearer's character goes through with a divorce, she regrets not heeding her mother's advice, stating that all she has now is pride. In both this film and its 1956 musical version, The Opposite Sex, the woman eventually forgives her husband--pride be damned--and gets him back. The message sent is that it is more important for a woman to look the other way and forgive her cheating spouse than to divorce him and face the world alone.
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Mary has forgiven her husband
and is going to get him back. |
Despite the messages, I still enjoy all of the above mentioned movies. There is much to be praised in plot, witty dialogue, and other thematic messages, not to mention fun, goofiness, and gorgeous costumes. At the same time, it's important to be aware of the subtext in anything one views.
